See anything different… you betcha! For the past few weeks, I’ve been changing my blog’s layout and I couldn’t be more excited to finally share it with all of you! Playing around with my layout brought me back to the good ole’ days of designing my myspace page and trying to figure out the “perfect tune. Spoiler alert… there was no perfect tune. After Myspace, Tumblr quickly took over my life. I still go on mine every few months to get inspiration. Somethings never change because as soon as I started college, I joined WordPress and started my first blog. Now that I’ve had this blog for a few years, it has brought me so much happiness. I love looking back at old posts and seeing where I was like the lavender field last year or Barcelona a few years earlier. I love reading my thoughts and seeing how I’ve changed since.
When I first made my blog, I didn’t tell anyone for a full year. I thought it was “weird” and “lame” so I decided to hide it from everyone. After about a full year of blogging, I decided why not let people know what I’m doing. At first, it was terrifying because I cared an insane amount about what people thought. Would they think it’s weird? Would they hate what I had to say? Would people even read it? To my shock, people liked what I had to say, which brings me to my main point of writing this post. If it brings you happiness, why should you care what people think? Mind you, the thing that makes me happy is not chopping up barbies and gluing them to picket fences… thank god. But, the thing that makes you happy should only matter to you. With that said, here are four ways I’ve been trying to stick up for my own happiness.
Don’t talk down the things that make you happy
I didn’t realize I was talking down my blog until my friend pointed it out at the bar last week. We met up with another friend that we hadn’t seen in a year or two and he informed me that he has seen all of the blogging content I’ve been doing. I quickly responded, “oh, yeah, it’s just a weird little hobby I do.” But the thing is, it’s not weird and it’s more than just a hobby to me. It’s something I care about. So why did I feel so inclined to make it seem like less of a deal? I’ve been blogging since 2014 and I love interacting with each and every one of you. It is something that brings me so much happiness. My goal for the rest of the year is to be okay with the “weird” things I do and embrace them instead of talking them down. After all, why talk down something when it makes you happy?
Be proud of what you do.
As a woman, I always find myself toning down my success instead of celebrating it. For example, when older adults ask me what I do for work I quickly blurt out a rehearsed statement that I do ecommerce and media for a medical company. They then always respond with something about social media. It doesn’t matter if they’re saying positive or negative things, I always tone it down and say something along the lines of, “oh, yeah, it’s just one aspect of my job.” When in reality I should be saying something like, “I increased ecommerce traffic from social media by 71.2% last year,” or “it’s a great avenue to generate more sales for my company.” I’m working on improving this but it all starts with being proud of what you do. Being a wallflower won’t bring you happiness, instead, be tall and proud for all of your accomplishments because you deserve it.
Go after the things that you think you can’t do.
In order to be happy, you need to make your own opportunities. You cannot sit around and just hope something big comes your way. Go out of your way and smile at that stranger, learn a new skill, join a club, run that extra mile, or reach out to that old friend. If you aren’t happy now let’s do something about it. The best things are the things that prove you wrong.
If it isn’t bringing you happiness, change it.
In theory, this is the easiest tip but is actually the hardest one to grasp. Say you dread going to work each day but stick by a job because it pays the bills. Brush up your resume and stroll through the long list of jobs on LinkedIn. Say you’re unhappy with your body and it’s preventing you from doing things that you used to love. Join a gym, eat healthier, walk your dog, or go to a trampoline park with friends. We have the ability to make our own happiness because we can change everything about our lives. We can change the people we have in our lives, where we live, what we eat, how we look, and even how we think. If it isn’t bringing you joy, say buh-bye. Check out how to get rid of negative influences out of your life here.
How do you stick up for your own happiness? Let me know in the comments down below.