How I’m Practicing Self-Love Years Later
This past week, I’ve been moving photos from five-six years ago to a hard drive. As I’ve been sorting through all of these photos, I’ve been getting frustrated remembering what I used to think of my body and how little self-love I had. I’m sure you can relate, you probably heard those words keep into your head and go straight down to your heart. Fat, useless, unworthy, etc. Looking back on those years (mind you I’m still pretty young) I want to shake myself and scream “shut up“.
We’re Too Critical
Looking at photos from high school and freshman year of college has been a little bit of a wake-up call. As women, we are so critical at
How to Tone Down the Self-Hating Voices
We’re our own worst critics. These six different ways are the best ways to make sure you’re taking care of yourself without stepping on your own toes. It’s okay to take care of yourself and make sure you are okay before you worry about someone else.
Find an exercise program you can stick with and love.
The first thing I did when I got my license
Exercise programs I recommend trying: Orangetheory (check out my review), Tabata, and pilates. Those are my favorite and make you feel like a goddess
Forget the word “dieting”
All throughout high school and even the beginning of college, I made sure I could only eat x, y, and z. Forget
Forget talking negativity to yourself
Okay, this one is definitely easier to say than actually do. The best way to practice self-love is to switch every negative thought with something positive. For example, if you keep thinking your legs are big why not think that they’re strong, powerful, and allow you to walk, run, and crawl. With every negative, there is a positive you just need to look for it.
It’s okay to put yourself before others
I have a really hard time with this one. I absolutely hate confrontation. It may be because I’m a Sagittarius or a circle or whatever, I avoid it at all costs. I forgive easily just to avoid that confrontation. So to tell someone “I can’t do that today” or “I really have to do ___ today” it’s impossible for me. But it is
It’s okay to pamper yourself after a long day
Want to get a pedicure? Want to get a facial? Need another hour of sleep? Heck, want to get a spray tan just because? It’s okay! Sometimes our lives get so stressful that we think we can’t do things. It is okay to tell someone you need a little R&R or a little me time. You’ll feel more rested and you’ll be attentive to your next mission. Take care of y-
If it’s too much, don’t be afraid to ask for help
If you’ve tried steps to make things better and nothing has worked don’t be afraid to talk to a close friend or see a therapist about the issues you’ve been dealing with. Sometimes it’s nice to have someone hear you out and tell you that you’re not crazy.
This Valentine’s Day Give Yourself Some Love
So as we age together, I just want to say this to you: be kind to your body. Nourish it, work it, and sing it praise. It’s doing so much for you. Pushing you to work, feeding you when you’re hungry, and making memories each and every day. Treat it well, treat it kindly. It’s the only home we have.
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How do you practice self love?
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I need to practise self love more too, I was thinking about getting my nails done tomorrow as a valentines treat but also thought I should save my money. But reading this has made me decide to do it because it’ll cheer me up! And that is important! Also like the point of putting yourself first because I feel like normally people don’t encourage that and I know I’m the same and always work around other people to satisfy them if that makes sense. But it can get tiring, especially if it’s not reciprocated. Anyway, I’m rambling. But I really enjoyed this post 🙂
Jenny | localleo.co.uk
Oh my goodness, yes! Get those nails done girly! I reciently went to get a pedicure and it was the best luxury thing I could have done for myself.
Also, I couldn’t agree more. It sounds so selfish to put yourself first but in order to focus on others you need to make sure your life is in check first. You can’t help others if your life is also a mess!
Thank you for stopping by Jenny!
Okay I love this!! Awesome post with great tips that we all need to hear!
Katherine | http://www.oneswainkycouple.com
Thank you so much, Katherine! I’m so happy to hear that!
Skirt The Rules
Great tips to live by! Thanks for sharing your sharing!
Skirt The Rules
Thank you so much, Jen! So happy to hear you liked it!
Yes big yessss to all of this! We can be a bit harsh on ourselves and it’s so support to ourselves first. I have followed all of this and it has also helped with my self-confidence!
Oh my gosh, I’m so happy to hear that! I always find we’re so supportive of our friends and loved ones yet always talk negatively about our own selves. It’s time to support ourselves first and let that negativity go!
I wish more people would read this post! There are so many people struggling with self-love and body image in our society nowadays, to the point where it’s almost become normal to stress and obsess over the way you look. I think we’re all a bit critical to ourselves every now and then, but hopefully we can all come to a point where we love ourselves more than the images we see on a screen.
Oh my goodness, I couldn’t have said it better myself! I feel like we’re often so fixated in how we look that we overlook just having simple fun. It’s time to lighten up and just eat that second scoop of ice cream! Thank you so much for stopping by!
Thank you for this inspiring post! I couldn’t agree more with all your sentiment. Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!
Thank you so much! I hope you have a lovely Valentine’s Day as well! 💕💕
You’re so right… love starts with us! It’s something we should practice everyday.
I couldn’t agree more! It takes a step at a time but man is the journey worth it! 💕
Wonderful post! I believe self-love and self-improvement merge together well. They don’t have to be separate. You can accept yourself, love yourself and improve yourself at the same time.
I love this- so much of it is how we talk to ourselves, and changing that messaging can really help!
Le Stylo Rouge
Thank you so much, Ashley! I couldn’t agree more.
This is such a wonderful read dear, and I couldn’t agree more, especially the last two.
Jessica | notjessfashion.com
I am so happy to hear that, Jessica. Self-love is so important in today’s society!