
Check What You’re Being Influence By
I’ve been working in the city for a little over a month and I love seeing all of the fashion-forward outfits day in and day out. This made me think about how easily I am influenced by the things that are around me. Whether it’s art, architecture, or even just the people around me, I am easily influenced. Sometimes that can be a good thing and sometimes that can be a bad thing. Check out what I do to make sure the things that influence me are good.

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Why it is So Important to Realize Where Your Influence Comes From
Back in high school, I used to follow so many “Thinspo” accounts it would make your eyes bleed. As a teenage girl who already had negative thoughts about her body, you could only image what kind of negative energy this emulated into my head and I’m sure I’m not the only one. Fast forward a few years, my interest in Tumblr faded and my interest in Instagram grew. Instead of “thinspo” pictures I was bombarded with pictures of fashion influencers. Their constant ability to show new outfits consistently made my want to buy clothes at a rapid rate – it pushed the idea that you couldn’t wear outfits more than once and that they always needed to be fashionable.
So whether your friend friend brings a reusable cup to the coffee shop or a stranger gives you a simple suggestion, you are influenced. Sometimes it can be positive and other times it can be for the worst. The point is to tune in once in a while to make sure the influences you are honing in on aren’t effecting your well being and morals.
It’s Okay to Unfollow People
The weird thing about Instagram is that it becomes this whole crazy mindset that you can’t unfollow someone. Um, yeah, I’m going to be the first one to say you can do whatever the heck you want to do. Someone from your past doesn’t make you feel great? Bye sister. Every time you see that one influencer you feel negative about your body? Buh-bye. It’s okay to put yourself first – especially on social media. After all, it’s just a stupid little app.
Tip: Twice a season I go through everyone I follow on Instagram and make sure that their energy isn’t making me feel crappy. If they are I press that big ole’ unfollow button faster than you can unwrap a starburst.
Recognize the People that Do Put Out Good Energy
Influence can be a good thing. It can improve your style, instill an environmentally friendly mindset, and help you try new things. I’ll be the first one to admit that I’m easily influenced by influencers. I have select bloggers that I’ll always trust for reviews on quality products, bloggers that I go to for style advice, and ones that I go to for pose inspiration. Heck, this outfit is definitely tuning in Ashley J’s minimalist style. So when you’re being influenced in a positive way give those influencers some love and encouragement.


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Who do you find yourself getting influenced by? Do you do a good cleanse on social media to make sure that you’re following good vibes only? Let me know in the comments down below.
As always,


27 Comments
Ashley
I am down for this- I think as social media has become SUCH a huge part of our lives, curating our feeds and unfollowing when necessary to protect our own well-being is 100% necessary!
And you look so chic + 90s cool here!
-Ashley
Le Stylo Rouge
PeculiarPorter
I couldn’t agree more! It is so important to make sure what you’re seeing every day is actually aligning with how you want to feel. Thank you so much, Ashley!
xo Logan
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Khanak
My favourite one was – “it’s okay to unfollow people”. YES! I’ve been doing a follow-cleanse lately and it has really helped me. Great post!
Khanak x
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PeculiarPorter
I am so happy to hear that Khanak! It is so freeing after you do a good cleanse. Plus, it gives you a reason to find more people who align with how you want to feel!
Becoming His Tapestry
yep! great advice, my friend. You are beautiful as always
PeculiarPorter
Thank you so much! You always know how to brighten my day!
Surreal Serene
honestly loved reading this post, and you look great! it’s really important to be around good energies <3
Serene XO
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PeculiarPorter
Thank you so much, Serene! It is so important to surround yourself with good vibes because that’s where you’ll get your energy off of!
Radi
So crazy to think we are being influenced by so much nowadays sometimes without us even knowing it.
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PeculiarPorter
I couldn’t agree more! I find myself wearing things I didn’t think about wearing years ago because of all the great fashion inspo ive been seeing on Instagram. Although influence can be negative, I love finding the positive ones 💕
jenniferpickering22gmailcom
This is so important! I’ve had to unfollow people that I know in real life and I don’t feel bad!
Jennifer
Effortlessly Sophisticated
PeculiarPorter
I experienced that recently too but sometimes it’s for the better!
Monica Sors (@MonicaSors)
Good vibes only, totally agree babe! And I work on that every day 😉
Love your casual look btw!
xx
Mónica Sors
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PeculiarPorter
I love that! Keep staying so positive! 💕
La ilusión de Nina (@lailusiondeNina)
Great post dear! Thanks for sharing!!
Have a great day! xx
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PeculiarPorter
Thank you so much!
Tania Franco
I can relate to what you’re saying about unfollowing accounts that don’t make you feel good about yourself. The only reason I wil unfollow is if I don’t feel connected to the content anymore. I feel that connection is key, and of course your health and well being is number one!
xx,
Tania
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PeculiarPorter
I couldn’t agree with that more, Tania! Connection is definitely a HUGE factor for whether or not I stay following as well. Especially because our tastes constantly change!
Atsuna Matsui
Aww I love this wonderful post! I definitely make a much more conscious effort in being more aware with what and who I surround myself as well. I actually went through a cleanse and unfollowed/stopped supporting pages and influencers that didn’t bring joy to my life. It felt so liberating and I definitely have been seeking and initiating to people that are more like-minded to me.
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PeculiarPorter
A big cleanse is exactly what everyone needs! I’m so happy that you’re making such a conscious effort.
Martyna
Nice post, everybody should use your tips. Nowadays, it’s hard to be ourselves as we see so much fake photos on the internet.
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PeculiarPorter
I couldn’t agree more! i feel like every time I go on snapchat it is always some big story about how so and so photoshopped their image on Instagram.
Kelsey Bang
fun photo spot! you look super cute!
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PeculiarPorter
Thank you so much! it is one of my favorites!
Jessica
This is so on point dear, and I couldn’t agree more. It’s good to be mindful about the things we’re consciously or unconsciously following.
Jessica | notjessfashion.com
PeculiarPorter
Exactly! How you feel about yourself goes so much into what you surround yourself with!
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