
Goodbye Bad Vibes and Hello Good Vibes (OOTD and Update)
Hello darling! Getting all dressed up to meet powerful, dedicated people who are in positions you either admire or hope to one day be in can be scary. I mean, what do you even wear? I can’t even tell you how many different outfits I tried on for Her Conference before I decided to go for, yes, the first dress I tried on (on sale right now). Don’t you hate when that happens?
Her Conference was a blast. Wait cross that out… Her Conference was inspirational. It was a breath of fresh air, in a weird invasive way, hearing that all these incredible role models struggled finding their path. All of the different courses they took to end where they are now spoke so much to me. Bottom line being: everyone struggles but eventually you’ll find your footing.
Hearing that is something that needs to be shouted from roof tops and heard past the mountains. Today, in society, we often see how put together everyone is. May it be through Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, or even these blogs, it just seems like everyone has found the button that says “make life great and easy” while some of us are stuck in a wad of gum. Thats why it is so important hearing the “before” story and sometimes even the “during” story. The only problem is most people don’t want to talk about all the little hiccups they’ve had on the way. The thing is, those little hiccups make you who you are. The time you got rejected from that dream job, that time you spilt coffee all over your proposal, or even the time you decided to step back because you just simply had too much on your plate. You may call these minuscule things setbacks or failures but they’re not. They make you who you are, and you are a remarkable person.
With that in mind, I’m trying to discontinue negative influences in my life and start bringing in more positive vibes. Whether that be unfollowing anyone on Instagram who seems as if they are adding a negative vibe to my life or adding people who may share body positivity, motivation, or just simply laughter to my life. I firmly believe that the people who you are drawn to and become friends with explain who you are as an individual. When you see a friend who is maybe nice to you but mean to others, step back and think to yourself if you would do the same. If you wouldn’t, maybe it is time to say goodbye to that person. If you incorporate positive people in your life and you will have a positive life.
Now, I hope that wasn’t too “deep” or whatever. My blog tends to be light and fluffy sometimes but now that I’m an ‘adult’ *cough* *cough* not really *cough*, I thought I would share my vast 22-year-old wisdom. But, no really, I would love to know your thoughts on this and/or any personal experiences you’ve had with incorporating more positive influences in your life. I would love some advice so leave a comment down below.
As always,

23 Comments
maffsnotebook
Oh wow thanks for sharing this! So glad i read this post because I needed this. Im at the stage of my life where i dont know where to go or what to do. I guess, fresh grad-feels is still overwhelming me. I’m so bad at “adulting” but i still keep on comparing myself to people who i think have already sorted their life out and it gets me frustrated how theyre already so well-put and im here still trying hard to sort my life out– trying not to feel lost. But youre right. Every bump in our road will lead us to who we’re going to be. I just hope everything will be fine eventually.
Anyway, thanks for this post. Truly helped a lot β€
PeculiarPorter
Oh my goodness, I am so happy to hear that. I recently got my job after graduating in May. I applied to over 200 jobs and landed the perfect job a few weeks ago. Thus, I can really feel where you’re coming from. There is so much pressure getting a job right out of school. Take this time to enjoy yourself- the right job will come along soon enough! π
maffsnotebook
Thank you! π Yes, you’re right. I guess I just have to invest in myself first so when the right job for me comes, I’m ready to commit and be 110% good at it. Haha. Aww I’m so happy you landed on the perfect job! That is so GOALS! And hey, you really deserved it!
PeculiarPorter
Thank you so much! π
Liz in Los Angeles
Good vibes only. Love the outfit btw!
PeculiarPorter
Thank you so much! βΊοΈ
Tokyo to Paris inspired
Very inspiring post and pretty dress!π
PeculiarPorter
Thank you so much! Glad you thought so π
Cat Chiang
So true! Thanks for sharing π
PeculiarPorter
Thanks for readingπ
chefoctor
Just do it. Negativity can have a lasting impression on each one of us, even if we think “oh, it’ll pass.” It won’t pass unless we do something about it, which can be as simple as unfollowing someone. This is something that I feel that we all struggle with because we need to always decide if it is worth it to continue through the bad times for a greater reward or to simply end the negativity by moving away from it. Do what your gut tells you, and your friends (they know you the best). π
PeculiarPorter
Loved hearing this from you Tyler! I couldn’t agree more- take action instead of just thinking it’s going to pass.
NaturallyChicandFeminine
The ruffles on the straps of this dress makes it so cute! You look great!
Noelle
PeculiarPorter
Thank you so much Noelle! I totally agree.
AnjaGe
Lovely dress <3 <3
Happy Monday!
PeculiarPorter
Thank you! You too!
Lauren Lindmark (@dailydosecharm)
Yesss girl love this post!! I am a total believer that you attract what you put out into the world π
Lauren Lindmark | http://dailydoseofcharm.com
nataliesalchemy
I agree that it’s so important learning about the before and during part of struggles because it gives others hope that they can achieve greatness.Those are the stories that inspire me to push even harder to my goals.
Natalie | http://nataliesalchemy.wordpress.com
PeculiarPorter
I couldn’t agree more. It is so important hearing the struggle so that you know it’s okay. Plus, it puts a more realistic spin on the future. Thanks for stopping by Natalie π
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